The Other Dirty Word: Change

What comes to mind when you hear the worddown into the steps that will lead you there. Utilize
change? Are you fearful? Excited? Does you bloodthe tools or skills that are going to move your
run cold or do you hear yourself saying, "I like thingstowards that big goal at the end. If you goal is to
just the way they are." Is "change", the other dirtyget a better job, then determine what you need to
word?do it. Would having your degree help put you in that
Most of us find change hard; Not necessarily becausebetter job? What about improving your skills? By
we do not want to change, but because it is sailingbreaking your goals down into steps, it will increase
into the unknown. Who knows what is going to beyour changes to achieve because you are laying
around the next bend in the road? We are mostdown the foundation on which your goal or dreams
likely to rail against changes that are going to have ancan be built on. Without a good foundation, your
adverse effect on our lives.aspirations might not have the support then need to
It's easy to see why someone would be upset ifgrow and flourish.
they lost their job; It is one of those unexpectedBeing determined, willing, and committed to change.
changes in life, just something that changes withoutChange is not an easy course of action. It is the
our control. One thing we didn't see coming, one thatprocess of breaking old habits and replacing them
we were not prepared for. It is natural to bewith better routines that will lead you towards what
resistant, be angry, or every scared as you travelyou want to accomplish. You did not create those old
into the mysterious future without the security thathabits over night, it has been months or years of
was once there."practice", of them becoming routine to you. Change
Most people continue on, find a new job and mostis not going to happen overnight, it too will take
times find out that the change turned out to be apractice.
good one. Maybe they found an even better job,If for example you are trying to change the habit of
maybe they found a job that allows them be withalways looking at the negative, then you will have to
their family more, or they decided to go back topractice flipping that immediate habit of negative
school. Sometimes its easier to change when you arethinking or perception into a positive way of thinking.
pushed into a corner.It takes work, it takes time, and it takes persistence.
So, if what seems like a negative change can turnYou will have to remind yourself of what the
out to be a positive, then why is it that people fightbenefits of maintaining a positive perception will give
making positive changes in their lives, as well? Whyyou.
do we not change things that we do not like in ourStay motivated by reminding yourself what
lives? What makes us procrastinate the changes thataccomplishing each step is going to mean to you. Will
could make our lives better? What do we fear?you be happier? More confident? What will that lead
Often times it is the fact that we fear failure, evenyou to? With more confident will you be able to be
though it is not consciously known. What if we fail tomore successful? Will it be a stepping stone to
make our dreams a reality? What happens to thatsomething bigger and better? Will it make changing
dream then? Is that what you fear? The lost of ayour life easier?
dream? Trying and failing?Get the support that you need. Most people let pride
It is natural in human nature to think the worst.stand in their way of asking for help. There has
Failure would mean the death of a dream. But, whatalways been and always will be people in our life that
if you tried and succeed?shows us examples of over coming adversity, that
It is possible, isn't it? People do it everyday, theyhelp us find our personal strength. Surround yourself
accomplish their goals, and they reach their dreams.with people that have accomplished what you are
They choose to push pass the fear of failure, thetrying to do. Seek out people that uses the skills that
fear of loosing a dream, and bring into reality whatyou want to develop. Be around people that tend to
was only a vision in their mind.bring out the best in you. Spend time with people
So, how do we push past the fear, the doubt, andthat will not give up on you and will tell you all the
the anxiety of changing our lives for the better, whilereasons that you should not give up on yourself or
expecting the worst? What makes us take that leapyour dreams.
of faith? Usually, it is a realization that, "its just notAbove all, you have to believe in yourself. Find the
working anymore". Whether it, is a career, astrength you need within yourself. Empower yourself
relationship, or even something within themselves. Itto follow that path to life improvement through
is evident that there needs to be a change, in orderchange. Take it one step at a time. We only need
to fulfill the yearning to find what is missing in theirthe courage to over come that fear and to take
lives. That is what motivates people to get throughthose steps that will lead to a better future. Tap into
the fear of moving forward instead of just towingyour strength. Believe in yourself and in your power
the status quo.to overcome obstacles. Believe that you can design
Break it down in steps. Just saying, "I want a betterthe life you want and get to your heart's desire at
job." is a daunting goal, unless you break down itthe end of the path called change.