How to Resolve Instead of Just Solve Problems

"I have heard there are troubles of more than onethe pattern of lousy jobs, he would have to get a
kind. Some come from ahead and some come fromgood job that he enjoys.
behind. But I've bought a big bat. I'm all ready youWe see the same problem patterns in the various
see. Now my troubles are going to have troublesrelationships some people have. Whether it be with
with me!" - Dr. Seusstheir spouse, family member, friend or romantic
In these hectic, often stressful days, many peoplerelationships, the same problems occur over and over
measure themselves on their ability, or inability, toagain. Each problem is eventually solved only to have
solve problems or "put out fires" in their daily life. Aanother same or similar type of problem recur later
successful day is a day when problems are solved.on. The band-aid came off of the root issue and the
However, the same kinds of problems keep comingsore is still festering.
up. Perhaps not every day but often enough toSolving a problem works to a point. It works until the
notice a pattern if one only stops for a minute toproblem shows up again in some form or fashion.
examine the series of problems that they keepTo resolve problems it is essential to mindfully
solving over and over and over again.examine the problematic experience to dig down
Is it better to solve a problem or resolve a problem?deep to discover the root cause. For personal
There is a distinction.problems, the best place to start is within. What
The dictionary defines the word solve as to find thewithin me is creating this problem? A bad decision
solution to a problem or question or understand thethat was based in fear? Making erroneous
meaning of a problem or question. The word resolveassumptions? Allowing yourself to be a victim to
means decide, bring to an end; settle conclusively. It'sother people's "shoulds"? Taking the path of least
an important distinction.resistance?
I was watching the television show Numb3ers oneRemember, everyone is always doing the best they
night and one character lamented to the other aboutcan. No one gets out of bed in the morning and
how nice it would be if they could stop people fromwonders how they can create problems for
shooting each other. The other character respondedthemselves that day. As such, is it important to leave
that it would be even better if guns and bullets werejudgment out of the equation when examining what
no longer manufactured. Yes, there are a few holesrole you played in creating the problem. If it is a
in that argument but the point is well taken. Oftenproblem within a company, look within the company.
we continue to put band-aids on symptoms,What within the company is creating this problem?
outcomes, rather than clear up the root cause of theAn outdated system? Inexperienced employees?
problem.When you discover the root cause of the problem
Lousy job? Get a new job, problem solved. Or is it?make the corrections. The root cause is then
Many people go from one lousy job to the next. Theremoved, the festering sore is healed, the pattern of
jobs may be truly lousy or the person isn't pursuingsimilar problems is ended. For good.
work that excites or inspires his natural calling. EitherDon't just solve your problems; resolve your
way, that person is just creating the same, or similar,problems.
problem over and over again and applying the same"Convert difficulties into opportunities, for difficulties
solution each time. To resolve the problem, to stopare divine surgeries to make you better.